Why is it that most of us believe in the paradigm that we need to suffer to progress? This no-pain, no-gain ideology is first coming from the bodybuilding realm, where the common idea is you have to work hard on yourself to build muscles.
What is a projection?
No, it is not a judo technique that you can use to throw your partner on the floor.
Projection is the function of psychologically transferring some parts of our past into the present.